Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm thirty-four years old, and I'm dating a pastor who is forty-two. We are both divorced, and we met online. I'm ready for children, and although he already has two from his first marriage, he said he’d have another child with me.
He wants us to have sex before we get married, but I prefer to wait until our wedding night. I love to tease him in sexy lingerie, and he always jokes about ripping my nightgown off and taking whatever he wants. I love this man, and we have a great time together, but I don’t like the way he looks. He has a hard face and a permanent frown in his forehead. He has short teeth, but they’re pearly white. My aunt and my mother warned me against having children with him because they said my baby will look like a gremlin. This man is anointed, and he has been a perfect gentleman. He’s a man of God for sure, and he’s blessed where it counts. Just because I am not partaking of his blessings yet, I still know what he’s working with, and I can’t wait to make him—and it—all mine.
I’ve never been into looks, and I think less handsome men are sexy because they are rough-looking. This man can walk around me in nothing but his underwear, and I will be a happy woman for the rest of my life. But my aunt and my mother said I need to try it out before we get engaged, just in case he is terrible in bed. How can he be terrible when he’s working with all of that?
I need your advice on this one. Should I sample the goods now or wait until marriage?