Dear Steve and Shirley,
My husband and I have been together for 24 years and married for 15. We dated and broke up a lot in the past because he's a cheater. He had sex with six women that I know of, and I’m sure there are plenty more I don’t know about. In the past 15 years, he said he’s been faithful and stopped messing around a year before we got married. My husband has embarrassed me to no end, and my family still has a problem accepting him.
I thought things were going well, and I kind of let my guard down, but my family was right. I never should have married him. I could be wrong, but all the evidence points to him cheating again. He is a handyman and painter on the side, and I scheduled a side job for him recently.
He has been helping an electrician put lights on a lady’s deck around the corner. He came home last Friday with his clothes in a grocery bag because he was too dusty to get back in his car in those clothes. He came home in his gym clothes and a pair of slides. I saw his work boots on the front porch and wanted to move them because it’s not nice to have big dirty boots in front of our house.
When I picked them up, I heard something rattling inside. I shook one of the boots, and a balled-up condom wrapper fell out of the left one. The wrapper was still sticky, which tells me he used the condom within the last two hours. I’m heartbroken because he’s failed me once again. He says I’m wrong and that he didn’t cheat. He keeps begging to talk to me, but why? So he can tell me more lies?
Is it time for me to go, or should I hear what he has to say?