Dear Steve and Shirley,
I've been married for three years, and my husband had two sons when we got married. I'm cordial with the mom of his nine-year-old son. It's the mother of the two-year-old that I don't vibe with. Here's why:
My husband and I split up a month before our planned wedding date because we were arguing over wedding plans and money. He started sleeping on the couch, and we ignored each other for weeks. So, we postponed the wedding, and he moved in with his cousin. During that time, he met a girl and was having sex with her without protection. She got pregnant quickly, and now he has a son with the woman he barely knows. I know her because she used to do my braids, and she knew I was engaged to this man. After all the drama over her and the baby, my husband and I worked things out and eloped.
Things were pretty good between us until last weekend when he announced that he's taking his sons to Disney World next month. I assumed it was a family vacation, but he said his two-year-old son's mom had planned the trip and invited his nine-year-old to go. This man knows I'm not with the BS, so I said if he's going, I'm going too. I am not sure how he thought a trip without me would be okay. He said it's best if I don't go because I would be mean to his child's mom the entire time. I just knew he had to be joking, but he's serious.
Since I can't go on the trip, I told him that I'll be gone from his life when he returns from Florida. He said I'm being unreasonable and not considering his son. Is he considering his son or his son's mama?