Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm 56 years old, and my husband will turn 75 in May. My husband is a great provider and a great daddy, but I don't get butterflies when I'm with him like I did in the beginning. I will admit, he wooed me with expensive things, and I was caught up at first. We met and got married all within a year. I didn't snap back into reality until I met my stepson at our wedding a year ago.
Now, I want my stepson more than I want my husband. He's a 52-year-old bachelor and a big flirt. He comes over to the house, and we have a good time together while my husband sits in the den glued to the TV. My stepson and I enjoy the same wine, foods, movies, and podcasts. We fall asleep together on the couch watching TV, and my husband doesn't even see what's happening between us.
My stepson said he hopes he can meet a woman like me—smart, pretty, and sexy—after age 50. I remind him that he is only a few years younger, and he said I look better than most of the ladies his age. I made up an excuse to have lunch with him yesterday, telling him I needed help planting his dad's birthday party, and he agreed to meet me.
He was so handsome, and he smells so good. His hug wasn't a normal stepson hug, and we blushed when the waiter called us Mr. and Mrs. King. It's obvious that we look good together. After lunch, he texted me to say that he had a great time and that I give great hugs. I wanted to tell him I give great everything, but I didn't.
Should I cut the BS and tell him I'm falling for him, or should I wait for him to make the first move?