The Strawberry Letter: He's Never Satisfied But I Am

Subject: He’s never satisfied but I am

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m married to my college sweetheart and he’s a great man but we don’t get along now. I wore the pants in our family for years because I made the most money. Back then, all he could do is please me and cater to me. I got used to it and it worked fine for me. He couldn’t wait to get a better-paying job and then switch back to wearing the pants in our marriage. Right after he started his new job, he started mouthing off and telling me he wasn’t going to do this or that. I let him do it because I know for years he couldn’t talk slick to me because he was broke. Here’s the funny part though… Now that he’s got a new job, it came with a new level of stress. That stress led to high blood pressure and that high blood pressure led to an increase in his medication so that led to him not being able to perform sexually. He has been a miserable wreck for a year and I have gone on with my life without him. I have a man on the side and he comes over to the house on Mondays and we meet at a hotel on Thursdays. It’s not about the sex, it’s just nice to talk to a man that has his stuff together. He’s not stressed about me being married and he’s not afraid to make love to me in my bedroom that I share with my husband. It’s not like my husband and I are putting that mattress to use anymore. I try to tune out my husband’s constant complaining about his job and I’m tired of him getting himself riled for sex when he knows he can’t last but 30 seconds. I’m over him and this marriage. Maybe if he had a better attitude, I could deal with it. Having an affair is the easiest way out for me. Life is too short to be unsatisfied, so how can he live like that? Do you think he’s thinking of divorce as much as I am? Should I try to work it out if he seems to not care?