The Strawberry Letter: How Far Is Too Far With My Man?

Subject: How far is too far with my man?

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been together for 2 years and we’ve been married for six months. I’m 28 and he’s 3 years younger than I am. I have a 7-year-old son from a previous relationship and my husband loves him to death. I started having sex when I was in middle school and by the time I was a senior in high school, I was running with a crew of girls and working as an escort for older men. I loved sex and couldn’t get enough of it. I’m way more advanced sexually than my husband, because of past encounters with older men. After I had my son, I stopped partying and tried to make things work with my son’s father. He soon found out about my reputation and he dumped me. I joined a church and I guess you can say I got saved. I met my new husband at church and I played the wholesome role the whole time we dated and I even abstained from having sex with him until we got married. My problem is, there is no way for me to suppress the fire that’s deep in my soul. I love sex and everything about it. I have tried to ease my husband into my world gradually and he says each time we make love, it gets better and better. I was honest about my past… Well, not totally honest about the number of men I’ve been with or about my bad reputation. I told him I learned a lot from an older man I was dating. He says he loves the kinky things I do to him, but the other night, he got offended and asked me to stop doing what I was doing. This is a problem for me because I need him to match my freakiness in the bedroom and he’s reluctant to go all-in with me. How far is too far with my new husband? Please advise.