Dear Steve and Shirley, I've known my husband since I was in high school and we have been in an on and off relationship for thirty one years.
Years ago, my husband made bad choices and he was sentenced to eight years in prison for selling marijuana. I stood by him the entire time he was incarcerated because I knew he was my soulmate. When he got out of prison, he kept his promise to be with me forever, and we have been married for five years. He has a good job, even though he's an ex con, and he bought us a new house and he takes care of our finances.
My only problem is that he works from home and has a lot of free time. During the day since he likes to hang out with his friends while I'm at work. There is one friend in particular that I have a huge problem with. We have both known her since high school. Since we were in high school, but they became closer friends over the years. He has four close male friends and they're all married, but this single woman hangs out with them. She's still a beautiful woman and she's kept herself up over the years. She is treated like one of the boys, so she is always at my house during the day, whether I'm there or not.
I hate coming home from work and she's sitting in my living room. My husband says, I'm tripping and it's no different than one of his boys being there.
If the shoe was on the other foot, he'd have a hissy fit.
I jokingly told her that I don't get my quality time with my husband because she's there all the time, and she snapped at me, and she said that if it's a problem, my husband would have to ask her to stop coming over so much.
Shirley, what should I do about this?