Dear Steve and Shirley,
I have some news to share with you, and I need your input. I'm a 33-year-old woman, and I have a female friend that everyone thinks is just a friend, but secretly she's my girlfriend. Girlfriend as in lover. It all started about four years ago when we both were having issues in our love lives, and we started venting, crying, and holding each other. One thing led to another, and it was on. I totally love the experience and wish I could be with her more, but we live in different cities. We've managed to be discreet with everything, so no one knows anything.
She came to town two weekends ago for my son's birthday party, and she spent most of the time laughing and talking to my youngest sister. I was kind of mad, but I had to play it off because I didn't want to cause a scene. After the party, I told my girlfriend that I was a bit jealous, and she said that it was nothing but light flirting because she was trying to see if my sister was interested.
Well, after talking to my sister and jokingly asking her what she and my girlfriend were talking about, my sister considered it to be more than flirting and she is interested in my girlfriend. I was furious, but there is nothing I can do. I didn't even know my sister was interested in women, but she is.
So, here's the problem: We are all scheduled to go to Mexico for the Fourth of July, and I am dreading this trip because if the two of them get together, I would die. Oh, I failed to mention that all three of us are married to men. We've all been married at least five years. My husband and my girlfriend's husband are clueless, and now my sister is trying to cheat on her husband with my girl. Can you help me sort this out? Should I be jealous or not?