Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm almost 60 years old, and I've been a live-in girlfriend for over 20 years. When my honey and I started dating, he was fresh off a terrible marriage, and I was married to an old man who died on me and left me homeless. I had saved up a lot of money and lost it all taking care of him. When he died, his children took what little money he had. So my current honey and I said we'd never get married, but he'd never leave me like the last one did.
He makes sure I have access to everything that's his, and he doesn't have any children, so I'm good on that part. We have a comfortable life, and he loves to travel. I will retire in five years, and I had planned to settle in and cater to my husband, but my honey is up to no good most of the time.
Over the years, I've seen things, and a few women have contacted me or approached us while we are out.
He has no shame, and one time he told the lady, "Come down, don't disrespect me," and he'll call her later. The lady turned around and went back to her car. He's like magic, and I can't get from under his spell. That's what my friends say to me when they come to me telling me that he's no good. What they don't know is that I'm looking at my future. I will take this man back no matter what he does because my aunties and grandma told me that a piece of a man is better than no man at all. It may not make sense to other women, but it's how I am with my honey. He's a good man if I look over his infidelity. He's 64, and I'm hoping he will settle down soon, but I can't lie. I'm afraid someone might take him away from me.
Am I going about this the wrong way? Should I leave this man?