Subject: He has a lot of jokes in the bedroom
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a man for 4 years and we were supposed to get married before all of the Covid drama. He moved into my house and that’s when we really got to know each other, inside and out. I sleep naked but I never did it around him until we started living together. He’s got a nice hard belly and I have a little soft one. He’s got knock-knees and I have a little bit of cellulite. I have a nice chest, but it doesn’t sit up like it used to after 2 children. It’s all age-appropriate because we’re almost 50 years old. I have the stress of having 2 kids in college, I take care of his 15-year-old daughter, I work full-time and run this household so yes, I may have gained weight here and there. I am constantly reminding him that he’s got more belly than me. Lately, I’ve been sleeping in pajamas because of his jokes about my body. Right at Christmas, he told me I reminded him of Frosty the Snowman and I laughed it off, but it hurt. He makes jokes in the bedroom and it’s a turn-off. He thinks it’s cute to call me ‘thickums’ or ‘bubble butt’ and I told him it’s offensive. Recently, I was in bed reading a book and he asked how I could read the words with my breasts in the way. He used to shower with me and now he says we both won’t fit in it. I told him he was rude and he doesn’t care. The last time we were intimate, he called my back fat his ‘handlebars’ and he kept gripping it. He’s even said that he can tell my breasts used to be nice and firm. He’s never had a problem with them before. It’s all too much for me so I hide my body from him now. I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore and he’ll end up cheating on me. Is this a sign, or do I need to relax and learn how to take a joke?