Subject: My grandson’s girlfriend jumped me
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 68-year-old divorced woman, living with my daughter and her 16-year-old son. Well, they’re living with me, in my house and I gave my primary bedroom to my daughter upstairs and I moved to the bedroom downstairs. I wanted for her and my grandson to have their own space because she lost her house during the pandemic. She’s saving money to get back on her feet, so in the meantime, I’m running my house as I normally would. I pay the bills and I buy the groceries. She’s a great cook so it’s a win-win situation. My grandson is expected to do his fair share by keeping his room clean, run errands, do his own laundry and keep his grades up. He’s been dating an 18 year old girl that he met at a basketball game and she’s from the wrong side of the tracks, if you know what I mean. His whole attitude has changed since he met her and I told his mother to keep an eye on him. She is more relaxed with him than I was with her at that age so I don’t understand it. I told him the girl can’t ever be upstairs in my home. I caught her up there several times, so I banned her from coming inside, period! My grandson had her on speakerphone one day and she said a few cross words about me for not letting her visit. I told her to watch her mouth and mind her manners. My grandson was very apologetic. I knew then that he is unable to control this young woman because she has whooped a good one on him. A few days after that, I caught the girl upstairs in his room again so I told her to get out. She raised up and threw a pillow and broke my glasses. My grandson had to restrain me because I was about to wear her out. She cursed me out all the way outside. My daughter said she’d handle her, but I want to press charges. Should I do it?